Getting Acquainted With Her Designs

The Art of Wat in Dating #11

“We cannot enter into alliances until we are acquainted with the designs of our neighbors.”
--Sun Tzu

We are in a buyer’s market for women in the current dating market. Women have a lot of leverage now because not only do they have their own paychecks and failsafes like abortion and birth control, there is also a flood of men tripping over themselves to give women free stuff for the possibility of sex, or even worse, just because she exists.

In war, forming an alliance with the wrong neighbor can get you betrayed or destroyed. In dating, rushing into a relationship, emotional investment, or exclusivity with a woman whose true goals you do not know is one of the fastest ways to get burned.

For the more moral types, they believe that all women want relationships and that the reason women cannot get one is that men are not good enough. So they improve themselves to the point of self-torture only to discover that she just wanted to have fun and that your corny attempts to corral her into a relationship scare her away. Despite your favorite black manospherean harping on how “women control access to sex and men control access to relationships,” women truly control access to both. Or you can “no true Scotsman” your way into oblivion. Fine by me. I am sure women will one day be happy with your effort.

For the neurotic men, they are hyper-overly aware of every little move women make. This could come from being burned in the past or being absolutely appalled by the public and proud behavior of your average TikTok girl telling everyone she uses men for 4-star dinner dates. Great strategy, and I am sure that sitting down endlessly to assess red flags is a productive use of your time and cortisol.

How about we do this instead:

Look at what she does, instead of what she says.

We have got women’s most common lies and deceptions down to a meme. We all kind of know that what they say is mostly bullshit. Despite this, women and their constituents still gaslight you into thinking you are crazy for noticing. It is too hard to look away now. They are screaming into our screens with impunity.”I don’t usually do this” → I absolutely do this, but please do not judge me for it.

“I like you as a friend” → You repulse me, but I would still like your attention and affection.

“We are not having sex” → I am thinking about having sex with you.

“You are an asshole” → I need to change my underwear because you made me wet.

“You are an incel” → You are correct.

You guys get the picture.

Vetting does not work, but time does. Time allows women to work extra hard to keep the mask on until they get exhausted and it finally falls off. It usually happens during a big fight six months in. The sweet innocent girl you mistakenly gave 10/10 D to is now banging on your door because she thinks you are seeing someone else. Mask off.

Body count is an abstract and mostly useless way to measure a woman’s character because even if you get the feeling she has been around the block, it does not equal better treatment from her. Some women have a high body count because between the toothy blowjobs, bitchy attitudes, and modern TikTok entitlement complex, no man will stay around long enough to deal with that. Sad but more common than you think. The sluts that enjoy sex and get married usually do so because she is pleasant with the added bonus of liking to fuck. So again, body count is never a good measure of character. Not like either of you will ever truly know it anyway (you don’t even know what counts as a body for her).

Delaying exclusivity is a great tool before getting into an “alliance” with a chick. If she brings it up and you truly are not sure yet, just ask for an extension like you would for your fucked-up taxes. Most women are not convincing enough to get you to give up your precious time, resources, and zero-decibel Sunday mornings, so do not be too hard on yourself when you are not sure.

As always, keep your options open. Keep exit ramps open. No need to explain this one too much.

Intelligence before alliance, as Sun Tzu tries to get across. I know sex is great but slow down and think before you jump into a relationship with a woman you just met. You do not know her angle.

A solid dating system (mine, to be honest) does what it is supposed to do. It reveals her intentions throughout the whole process. Drinks near you? She declines? She never liked you anyway. She finds out about other girls and does not care? She just wants casual sex. Does not post you on Instagram? Asks for free stuff? She wants a benefactor. You guys get the idea.

Observe first. Test her character. Watch what she does when it is inconvenient, when better options appear, and when you are not chasing. Only when you truly understand her nature and intentions should you even consider locking in. Until then, keep your options open and your position strong. Alliances are earned through time and proof, never given out of hope.

Know her designs. Protect yourself. Move accordingly.

--Nuke