Offer Freedom
The Art of War in Dating #8
When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard.
-Sun Tzu
Women, like any other animal, have a fight or flight response. What most men do not realize is that besides the one they use for escaping danger, they also have one for their romantic endeavors. If there is anything that will keep a woman addicted to you once you sleep with her and establish comfort and trust, it is never making her feel like she is trapped with you. Offering people freedom is offering them power. And as we know, women, like men, love power.
When you make her feel like she owes you something and trap her into a guilt loop by giving her gifts, opportunities, and other things, she will begin to resent you. This is why I say to never lead with gifts and use them for leverage. It will only cause her to leave you and never return, or resentment will build inside of her and she will begin to hate you.
Never feel entitled to women. I know this is a contentious thing to say in this day and age, but women feel this immediately whenever they deal with you. This may blow your mind, but the reason some women sleep with unattractive men, men you would never guess they would sleep with, is because those men offer them freedom. Being with a guy who has heavy expectations is one of the most terrifying things a woman can experience. She thinks, “What if I fail and he leaves me?”, “What if some other girl takes him because I am not enough?”, and “What if I get fat and he is no longer attracted to me?” and so on and so forth.
So how do we as men always leave women a clear emotional exit?
