Why You Hate Sluts
Do you actually?
In 2014 I told my brother as I was getting close to embarking on my Navy career to be a nuke, that “simping” was going to be the new gold rush in a couple of years. I saw several canaries in the mines years before COVID, before supposedly the Onlyfans and Instagram zeitgiest began. I would see glimpses in the form of a date I’d go on, where a woman showed me she got paid to just message men (she was a sailor who would do this with other sailors). Per her arrangement she never had to meet the guy and all she had to do was respond when she Facebook messaged her and act like his girlfriend. I didn’t understand but I thought it was an edge case.
Whatever.
As my Navy career rolled by I witnessed some of the worst female behavior I have ever seen. False sexual accusations, having sex with basically the whole division, faking injuries to get out of the Navy, hitting dudes at parties in a drunken stupor, banging my bosses (big no no), and ultimately just getting away with everything. I was terrified and honestly looking back, I felt like I was at risk everyday of being in their path of destruction.
Was I caught in the crossfire sometimes? Yes I caught strays from bad female behavior but I did my best to steer clear. I didn’t even date Navy women, and even that did not sit well with them. It was truly a race against time to get out before I had to incur the wrath of a “boat cute” woman who had never felt pretty when there is an even split of normal looking men and women around.
Fast forward to years in the future and now I write about intersexual dynamics and dating and even have a book out. It’s called The Art of Dating and honestly it’s the best dating book of all time.
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Because of this weird side quest I took I have to address women’s sexual behavior to near autistic levels and honestly the mental models I used to get over my “hate” of sluts were useful, namely “Assume all women are promiscuous, but don’t obsess” and “She was never yours, it was just your turn” were incredibly freeing and useful. Now, I must admit a lot of guys struggles with these two phases and I can see why. They hate sluts.
They REALLY hate sluts. Like they watch hours of podcasts of men debating sluts, being mean to sluts, sluts getting their just desserts, sluts crying on the internet, and feel a moral victory whenever a girl who pretended to be pure, is discovered to be a slut. Which makes sense because, the anxiety driven disdain of women with sexual agency is tied to men’s biggest fear, paternity uncertainty, but we all know that. We all read the red book.
Studies show (and I always use “studies show” cautiously) that both sexually successful men and sexually unsuccessful men have a certain disdain for sluts. I don’t want to be too reductionist but sexually unsuccessful men want sexual communism, or want enforced monogamy so they have some sex with one girl sometimes and sexually successful men see how they treat everyone else but them and decide they’re not good people. But why do YOU the reader hate sluts?
It’s easy.
You project your masculine experience onto them.
